HOW TO BE RESPECTFUL

Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Men are respectable only as they respect”.

To be respected, you should first respect others. Treat others, as you want them to treat you. Respect for others comes only when you also respect yourself. Calling a person by his/her name or Sir or Madam does not mean you respect or disrespect a person. Saying few words like ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. Respect for others comes naturally from heart and in no circumstances be forced. Respecting others helps in building up relationships. Respect comes when you try to empathize with others, when you keep yourself in their shoes. Although respect is hard to earn, but once earned people makes the life well lived.

 

Tips on how to show respect to others:

1. Be a good listener. We love people who listen to us and so assume the same for others. Though it is not always important to agree with what others say but at the same time it is very important to listen to them carefully and then give your reason for agreement or disagreement. You should show interest in what the other person is talking about. Not showing attention makes the other person feel that you are not taking him or her seriously.
2. Make an eye contact. This is possibly the best way to show your interest while listening to others and showing them that you respect what they are saying.
3. Understand the likes and dislikes of other people. Respect their choice. Don’t pressurize anyone to do something which he or she is not willing to do. When you give priority to someone’s right to choose, you show him or her respect.
4. Never make fun of others on the basis of their background, appearance, religion, status and other similar issues. This shows disrespect for others.
5. Preserve dignity. When wronged, mistreated, or otherwise upset in some way handle the dispute by approaching the person in such a way as to preserve their dignity. The best way to handle it is via a calm and private conversation.
6. Keep your promise. By keeping your promise to someone, you not only establish yourself as a person of integrity, but make the other person feel that you value them.
7. Put other person’s need before yours. This would show that you consider them before yourself.
8. Give the other person time to speak. Interrupting the other person while he still hasn’t completed is the worst thing you can do to disrespect the other person. Let the other person complete before you start giving you views.
9. Do not indulge yourself into mocking, teasing or backbiting others. Once you are out of all this, you will find yourself respecting everyone.
10. Apologize for your mistake. When you apologize for a mistake, it conveys your sincere regret and the person will appreciate your sense of love and respect for him or her.
11. Encourage others. Boost up the confidence of others by whatever means you can. This gesture will show your respect towards them.

There are dozens of other ways to show respect to others. However, the key to showing someone respect is to make them feel that they are valuable.

“Treat others as you want them to treat you because what goes around comes around”

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HOW TO DEVELOP YOUR PERSONALITY

Personality actually means the qualities or traits of an individual.

It’s your personality that leaves an impression on the stranger and as it is “first impression is the last impression”. Therefore it is very important to have a strong personality. Personality is depicted not only by your way of dressing but also by your way of speaking. Many people don’t feel confident to speak before huge gathering and thus they prove to have a weak personality. A person having a good personality has good command over his language and is confident speaking before the public.

If you want to give a good impression to others, personality development is of utmost importance.

Here are some tips on personality development:

1. Read more as this would help you in gaining knowledge and would also expand the areas of your interest.
2. Be a good listener because this will make people feel comfortable while interacting with you. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen to you intently making you feel like you’re the only person in the world.
3. Be a good communicator and talk what people want to hear. People love to talk about themselves, about their interests and so go ahead talk about all these. Show interest in their talks.
4. Meet new people. This will help you in developing confidence and will broaden your horizon.
5. Have a positive attitude because nobody wants to be in company of negative people or those who keep complaining. So be a person who can light up the room with his energy. Keep a smile on your face and the world will smile with you.
6. Be humorous because people want to be with someone who would make them laugh, who is chirpy and can find out fun in all situations.
7. Give respect to others as this is the most important thing for every person on this earth. If you will respect others, they will certainly respect you in return.

These are just few tips that will help you in developing your personality. Not only this, but for developing your personality it is very important to be a good speaker also. You must get a platform where you can speak before the public. Join some institute or a group that gives you this opportunity.

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DIFFERENT TYPES OF HANDSHAKES

Every gesture we make, it tells something or the other about our personality. A handshake is also one of these gestures that depict your personality and attitude. Thus, it is important for our personality development that we should choose the right kind of hand shake. There are many opinions on what a hand shake can tell you about someone.

Some people are of the opinion that handshakes are done only the way we learn it and thus they do not give the true picture of the personality of a person. But then, if this is so, then why do we learn about the body language?

The point here is that handshakes do help in knowing the characteristics of a person.

Handshake forms the most important part of greeting a new person. People can judge a lot from handshakes. A handshake conveys power, confidence and professionalism. This little gesture provides major clues that can help you to identify the person whom you are communicating with. If you are unable to perform a perfect handshake, it may create undesirable impressions on the other person. Thus, it is very necessary to put the best hand forward and follow the etiquette of handshaking to be in the good books of the other person.

Here are some basic types of handshakes understanding which will help you to depict a good personality to others:

The Standard Hand Shake In this, hands are engaged and people maintain eye contact, exchange smiles and shake hands two to four times.

Palm Up This type of hand shake means “I am here to serve you”.

Palm Down This type of hand shake is an authoritative one. It shows an authoritative, superior or controlling personality of the person. It says that you are there to take the lead, to take care of things, to get the job done.

Arrogant Shake It is made intentionally to demoralize your sense of security. In this the person offers a flat hand with the palm facing down to indicate that he is the boss. The best way to answer such a hand shake is by giving a hand with palm facing upwards.

Hand in Hand The greeter will offer a hand with the palm facing up and before you both start shaking your hands, he would sandwich your hand with his other hand. This is sometimes done to show care or concern or familiarity or to empathize for the loss of a closed one. If this type of hand shake is done even when the two of you are not good friends, then this is a form of false sincerity.

Palm Vertical The person extends his hand forward with his palm exactly vertical to the ground. It sends a message of equality and greetings.

Finger Vice When somebody grabs just your fingers and not the entire hand it means he wants to maintain a distance. These people are often insecure.

Bone-Crushing Shake A person making a hard, stiff handshake pretends to break your fingers and tries to prove that he is stronger than you and wants to control you. The message of squeezing your hand clearly indicates that the person is trying to intimidate you. People who make such a handshake are confident, but they also have a tinge of aggressiveness in them. So just remember that while facing such people, smile broadly and offer a firm-handed shake.

Condolence Handshake The person will pretend to be too familiar to you by clasping your right hand or arm with an attempt to hug you. This behavior may be accepted during a funeral, but it comes out as a inappropriate act otherwise.

Using Good Form

1. Raise your hand and extend until webs of both hands meet. Grasp across the palm wrapping fingers around the opposite side from the thumb.
2. Hold firmly.
3. Shake a few times or for about three or four seconds.
4. If your hands are full then give a polite nod rather than dropping everything. If the other person’s hands are full, be understanding and don’t offer a hand shake. Your gesture would be appreciated.
5. If wearing gloves, remove them.
6. Maintain eye contact while engaging in yourself in a handshake. This will surely communicate self confidence and sincerity.
7. The pressure applied in a handshake is relative to the culture you are in. For example, in North America, a firm hand shake is appropriate. Making it stronger or weaker than a basic firm grasp will only leave a negative impression.

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TEAM BUILDING TACTICS

In today’s time and environment in order to achieve success, weather in business, social cause, political cause or sports or any other field, one of the important factor is having a good or great team in place and that team should be effective and good at their work.

There are no set formula to make a great team over night and after serious and long efforts once a great team is in place it need more efforts to retain the effectiveness of that team.

Building a great team is not easy and one challenge and keeping that great team as great team for longer period is another challenge.

Below are the few points based on my experience, which are essential and required to build a great team?

1- Every one in the team should be aware of the team objectives and carry the same vision.

2- Each member of the team should be aware of their responsibilities and accountabilities.

3- Team member or team leader should be aware of each team member’s own aspirations so that they can think and make the team members understand that how through the team objectives their own aspirations will be fulfilled.

4- There should be free flow of information and idea among the team.

5- Reward and awards should be in public and grilling and individual feedback sessions should be in private.

6- There should be no additional favors to any team members and each one should be equal and treated equally.

7- After being included in to the team no members should be given the feeling of insecurity.

8- Team members should receive periodic feed back so that corrective measures can be taken if required.

9- Regular skills enhancement of the team members are required and each one of them should be aware that how these new skills will help them to achieve team’s objectives and their own aspirations.

10- There should not be any bureaucratic or aristocratic fashion of managing the team.

11- Team member should be pushed toward their best but should not be compared directly with any other team members.

12- There should be some time given to the team to develop bond among them so they can connect with each other.

13- The team members need to know how they fit into the picture. They should be aware how the team is constructed and clearly identify where they fall into the structure.

14- The team members must realize that the mission is important; otherwise they would not be committed towards it.

Each team is different and has different demographic and social and individual traits, so along with keeping above points in mind, these demographic/social or individual traits are also important in the process of building a great team.

-By Santosh (AAIPSian- AMDA batch)

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HOW TO CONQUER WORRIES

Today is the tomorrow we worriedabout yesterday. We need to understand that how many of the worries are real because real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.

There is a quotation by Benjamin Franklin “Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.”

So, first sort out your real problems from the imaginary ones (you may not agree but believe me, you will find out some imaginary ones also). Still feeling stressed, then feel happy because you are normal as stress is life.

With our hectic and overworked schedules we are bound to be stressed. These tensions can fall into anybody’s lap regardless of age and any particular reason.

“Pressure and anxiety is the common cold of the psyche.  ~ Andrew Denton”

Stress is anything that causes mental, physical, or spiritual tension. There is no running away from it. All that matters is how you deal with it.

Are you worried about some mistakes performed by you? Then start looking for the right thing to be done in this situation because a perfect person is the one who makes the right choices and does the right thing in all situations. The positive side is that by being imperfect, making mistakes, you are getting a chance to improvise. So again feel happy for being imperfect.There’s a quote that goes, “the more I practised, the luckier I got”. And still even if you have carried out your duty to the best of your abilities, always remember that you don’t control the outcome of events (students don’t take this tip for your exams, because the outcome is in your hands….!)

There are some losses which are incomparable, especially losing someone very dear to you, but with worries and stress we are not going to get them back. You have to keep yourself positive even in such scenario and if anything is less than this situation then it does not deserve to be worried about at all.

There are some tips as advised by some of the experts in handling stress and anxiety.

1. Write down your awful sad feelings but also make a list of “opportunities” and “good ideas” to improve, and ways to have fun, or of “doing something worthwhile” in a diary or other notebook.
2. Recognize the cause of your anxiety: We get uncomfortable and start panicking only when we feel that some situation is unmanageable or difficult to manage. If you discover some reasons for your tension, you have won half of the battle.
3. Think positively and be persistent.
4. Share your problems.
5. Learn from other people. Examine the way you see yourself and the way other people are handling their lives. Go out and get yourself involved with others. It’ll make you realize that the things that you agonize about are actually exaggerated compared to the things that some other unfortunate people have to go through.
6. Do some light exercises and activity, this really helps. When you are feeling very depressed, go to your Gym or go for a walk.
7. Divert yourself. Check out some latest movies and hot or favorite music.
8. Make your worry drive you instead of stopping you.Use it to push yourself to take an action.
9. Think positive and see the other side of the problem. Expect good things.
10. Learn to be grateful. You could have been in an even worse situation, but you should be happy that you do not have to face that worse situation. Also, there are many things in your life which are going your way. So don’t be afraid to find a solution to this small problem.

Conclusion is that

“Stress is the trash of modern life – we all generate it but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.  ~ Danzae Pace”

-By Priya (AAIPSian- Noida Batch)

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HOW TO RAISE A TOAST

The culture of  Raising a Toast has crept into the Indian Party hall from the West like so many other practices. Toast raising is done to give wishes to someone dear to us on any special occasion like birthday, wedding , retirement, anniversary or even death.

Toast is a small colourless drink, ranging from champagne, sprite to clear water.

Following a definite protocol helps to deliver the speech gracefully!

• Hold the  glass with the drink in your right hand. Hold it slightly away from your body. Grab people’s attention by saying “May I have your attention please”. Make sure to be loud and clear so that everyone can hear you and get into the picture with you.
• Begin by  saying  “Today, I would like to raise this Toast to my friend Rohit/ to my father/ to my sister Supriya…….on the occasion of his birthday/ anniversary etc.”
• Briefly say about the  person like, “My dad has always been a doting father, he is the most precious gift of God to me……………………” Do not use too many words but whatever you say, say it in a meaningful manner.
• Make this brief speech emotional.
• Look towards the person for whom you are raising the toast.
• Don’t look towards the audience  upto this point.  .
• Conclude your speech by finally giving wishes “…………..I wish him eternal happiness, success,…………..”.
• Your last word should be CHEERS!!!!!
• When you say cheers, at that point look towards the audience.
• Raise the hand with the glass, and sip it! All the others will follow.
• The success of Raising the Toast lies in putting your soul in the speech and practicing it well. An unpracticed speech may spoil your mood if you are not able to do well.

-By Shivangi Garg (Noida Batch)

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WHAT IS DETERMINATION?

Determination is a very simple word and it is often used by elders to scold the younger ones saying that you will not succeed in your life because you lack determination. You are serious about your life. They would list out a number of actions and would tell the younger ones to follow them to become focused, intelligent, successful and determined.

But what is determination? Everyone has one or more goals in his daily life. To achieve these goals, he has to plan and perform certain activities. During the performance of those activities, he may face some challenges, bottlenecks or even he may be advised to abandon one or more activities that were planned by him. Here comes the role of determination. At that juncture, how does he respond to those adversities? Does he remain firm on his goal, does he remain firm on his plan, does he remain firm on his action? If answer is in YES, that is his quality called determination. Determination is the act of deciding firmly.

I would like to sharee an example of my life. At the age of 10, I decided to become an engineer but unfortunately, I did not qualify the requisite benchmarks laid by the school to get admission in engineering stream. I had scored just 33 marks in mathematics which was not adequate. But still I was firm to become an engineer. The Principal of the school as well as my father tried to convince me to take some other stream as I would face problems in future also because my maths was not weak. At that point of time, I made another determination to have mastery in mathematics. And then for the next 2 years, I worked very hard and not only my classmates but teachers also started calling me a mathematician. I was delighted to hear that and I started working harder to reach to my goal. I was then able to get admission in Engineering college and now I am a successful Engineer because I was determined to beacome one and never gave up.

Ability and determination may be interlinked but in my opinion if you are determined, you have willpower to achieve, you have a habit to do the work, you can change your ability. You can convert your weakness into strength; you can convert your roadblocks into catalysts and you can convert your failure into success.

Determination is not born along with you. Determination is cultured, learned and developed. We need to make determination a habit. We have to make determination a part of our nature.

When can determination be developed? You can develop this quality right now. Age is no bar. But if you have the quality of determination from childhood, it can be groomed as you grow up. Children can be guided and helped to develop the power or habit of deciding firmly. When we get success because of our determination, we become stronger & stronger.

Many people all over the world have created history with determination and we would name them as persons of determination. Many physically challenged people  have set examples of determination by achieving great heights in their lives viz Helen Keller of USA was blind & deaf and was honored with highest civilian award; Albert Einstein who was a Mathematician and Physicist had learning disability and did not speak until the age of three;  Franklin-Roosevelt Roosevelt had Polio, but became the  Governor of New York State and was then elected as President of the United States for 4 terms; Ludwig van Beethoven became was deaf, but became a famous musician; Stephen Hawkings, the Physicist/mathematician had Lou Gehrigs Disease and was in a wheelchair. He needed a computer to speak.

So, determination is a wonderful quality. The person who possesses determination, can only titillate its outcome. determination is also a personality trait. It shows what kind of personality a person carries. And as we know personality development is must for a person. Therefore, developming this quality of determination will also help in your personality devlopment.

– By Sitaram Aggarwal (AAIPSian, Hilton Batch)

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HOW TO CRACK AN INTERVIEW

When you come out of your college, the big corporate world is waiting for you. You want to become a part of that world, but before becoming a part of that world you have to clear many stages in the form of written test, group discussion and PERSONAL INTERVIEW to finally reach that level.

It has been seen that many people do not crack interview even after cracking written test and GD. Although they are able to answer technical questions but they fail to answer non-technical ones. It has been seen that 60% of the total interview rejections are due to the non-answering of the non-technical questions and also because of your awkward body language. So before attending any interview you should know some tips on how to crack interview.

First of all, since first impression is last impression, you should be very well formally dressed up with a full sleeves shirt, trousers (non lining), socks matching your trousers color and a tie. If you are comfortable with suit then you can wear one. Make sure that you wear only black or brown leather shoes. No sports shoes or shoes of any other type or color.

Secondly as you are noticed from the time you enter the room till the time you leave it, so you should be very particular about the way of entering and leaving the room. Before entering the interview room, knock the door once and then enter the room by saying “May I come in Sir?” If on the other hand, a peon is being sent to call you then you should knock the door twice and then enter the room without saying “May I come in Sir”.

After entering the room, greet the interviewers with good morning or good evening as the case may be and don’t sit unless they ask you to sit. After you take your seat make sure that you sit straight. Put your file on your lap only even if there is table in front of you. If you carry a bag then put it on the right side of the chair. Through out the interview, have a pleasing smile on your face and don’t be nervous. Answer each and every question with confidence and speak fluently and don’t fumble. Look into their eyes while speaking as doing it shows your confidence level.

The very first question which is asked is “Tell some thing about yourself”, and most of the interviewees fail to answer it. Your answer to this question should contain details about your name, your academic carrier and your family background. Then you should know about each and every detail in depth about your CV particularly your hobbies. Your objective should be very clear.

Think twice before speaking as interviewers are in the habit of asking question from the answer you have given them of previous question. If you don’t know the answer of any question then just say without taking much time that “sorry sir I don’t know the answer” instead of looking here and there. If you need some time to answer question then instead of taking time you can use transitional phase.

If they ask about your weaknesses then just disclose one weakness and that to a minor one like fast driving. If they ask about your strength then support your strengths with examples.

Finally when your interview gets over then just says ‘thank you’, pick up all your belongings and leave the room gracefully. Also make sure that you push the chair a little bit before leaving the room.

Just remember that in an interview, your public speaking skills, communication skills, presenation skills and your personality, everything counts. If you will follow these rules then no one can reject you and you can make your way clear to the corporate world.

– By Anshul Gupta (AMDA, Sahibabad Batch)

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MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES to support your presentation skills

1.       Always do what you are afraid to do. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

2.      If you do not hope, you will not find what is beyond your hopes.–St. Clement of Alexandra

3.      Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need. –Voltaire

4.      Men’s best successes come after their disappointments. –Henry Ward Beecher

5.      Fortune favors the brave. –Publius Terence

6.      He who hesitates is lost. –Proverb

7.      When the best things are not possible, the best may be made of those that are. –Richard Hooker

8.      Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. –Albert Einstein

9.      Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

10.  Every artist was first an amateur. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

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TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS at Anurag Aggarwal Institute of Public Speaking

‘The only time that is yours is Present’. But many of us realize this when already a lot of time is wasted. A lot of people try to be busy without business and such people who pretend to be busy are the worst offenders of time. Time is the most precious asset that all of us have so it is very important that we utilize it efficiently.

Time Management is one thing that can help you lead a successful life. Time plays a crucial role in our work life and personal life. A person who possesses time management skills depicts a good personality. Therefore for personality development also, it becomes all the more important to know how to manage time effectively.

Here are some tips on time management:
1. Set SMART goals– Always set Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Rewarding and Timely goals i.e. SMART goals.
2. Know your priorities– If you are aware of your priorities, you shall do them first and the trivial shall follow. You can make a To Do List and then see which tasks should be given priority.

3. Plan your actions– Planning stimulates your brain and thus it comes up with more efficient ideas so it becomes necessary to plans the actions for your goals.

4. Lesser the time, greater is the work done– Always set a predefined time for achieving your goals because when you have a time constraint, you tend to better and more work.

5. Analyze how you spent your time– After a week or some time, just analyse how you spent your time and you would be able to make the necessary change in utilizing your time in a better way next week.

6. Multi-tasking– It is an age of multi-tasking so whenever or wherever possible try to do multi tasks at a time. (Like while traveling plan, read or make calls).

7. Organize yourself– If you have a well organized workplace, lesser time would be wasted in looking out for things or searching the documents and files.

8. Delegation– Learn the art of delegating the trivial tasks to the sub-ordinates so that you get ample time to be devoted to more important tasks.

9. Learn to say NO– If you have your work pending as per the pre defined time then just say no to all other activities which are of lesser importance.

10. Urgent or Important– Know the difference between urgent and important. Important tasks are those that give you long term progress. Urgent tasks are those that should be done right away.

Follow these tips and you would be more productive and these tips would also help you in personality development.

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